I have sent a few emails and instant messages lately with sentences like, 'I pray that…' Or 'praying for you…' And to be honest, I often question myself just as I'm about to hit the send button…am I REALLY praying for them or will I actually remember to follow through??
Like most, my prayer life could sure increase but I'm more talking now about the need to sound spiritual. Whenever I used the words 'hoping things work better etc', I wondered if 'hope' was a good enough thing to say.
Maybe what I'm really suggesting is that I didn't feel spiritual enough.
Would people think I was committed to them?
Would people see 'hope' as token?
Would my concerns for people have more weight if I used the word 'pray' instead?
But if I do use a different word, like pray, how weighty is it really if I don't pray??
And why do I feel the need to look better than I really am anyway?
Julia, my wife, just read this verse to me in the message:
And don't say anything you don't mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, 'I will pray for you,' and never doing it, or saying, 'God be with you' and not meaning it. You don't make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true.
This dilemma is more common than we realise and speaks to a deeper issue within humanity, which is the need to be accepted!
Our words need not to be used to impress one another but to help one another.
I am learning all the time that my words have greater impact when they flow from a heart that believes in people instead of the need to be accepted and using Religious Lace.